Re: So very sad. Sadder than you think!
From: April (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Dec 28 18:45:02 2004
Anonymous,
Thank you for your comments.
You really put everything in perspective.
April
At Mon, 27 Dec 2004, anonymous wrote:
>
>I find your post to be full of disturbing messages... Your boyfriend is
>screwing around with different women trying to knock one up because he
>couldn't get you pregnant?!? Good grief! What has happened to the world?
>
>Call me old fashioned but:
>
>#1 Consider yourself lucky to be rid of the dolt!
>
>#2 In a time when the religious zealots who are running the US are
>concerned that gay couples are endangering the sanctity of marriage,
>nobody seems to notice that marriage does not seem to be all that
>sanctified - apparently, young people today have figured out that the
>words "I Do" are not a magic spell that turn on the reproduction
>abilities and are therefore not necessary to ever say to anyone.
>Committment is no longer necessary and seemingly undesired!
>
>#3 Perhaps the problem with you getting pregnant was not 100% with you?
>Perhaps some primal instinctual part of you was not allowing him to
>impregnate you knowing full well that once the kid was around and Daddy
>Dearest realized how much work and committment was involved, the sperm
>donor be heading for the door. Or maybe his equipment is faulty.
>
>#4 Abortion was never meant to be used as birth control. Scarring is
>always a risk and repeated abortions can indeed compromise your
>fertility. Remember the old saying 'an ounce of prevention is worth a
>pound of cure?' It applies here. Abortion can be a lifesaver for a
>women who finds herself the unfortunate victim of circumstance but many
>use it as a "back-up" and that is just wrong. It endangers their health
>and their future fertility and doctors who do not discourage this are
>doing a great disservice to their patients.
>
>Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you're somehow a bad person for
>wanting to have a child, nor are you a bad person because you have had
>an abortion. Instead of worrying about Mr.
>I-just-wanna-get-a-girl-pregnant-to-prove-I-can, worry about your health
>and meeting the right guy you want to spend your life with. The guy who
>will go out in the pouring rain at 2 am and walk 4 blocks to the 7-11
>and get cold medicine for you because you were coughing and couldn't
>sleep. When you meet that guy, then say 'I Do' and toss aside your
>birth control. Until then, take those pills, use that diaphragm, use
>those condoms every time and protect your future and your future
>children.
>
>Good luck and happy hunting!
>
>A woman happily married to and completely in love with that guy.
>
>At Sun, 26 Dec 2004, April wrote:
>>
>>Hello everyone,
>>
>>Just wanted to let everyone know how infertility has affected me to the
>>point of losing hope on everything in life. My ex boyfriend and I were
>>together for 5 years before he broke up with me. The last 2 1/2 years
>>together we tried to get pregnant to no avail. It was discovered that I
>>had a fibroid which might be the cause and I had surgery. Still no
>>pregnancy. Well my boyfriend left me and now he is dating different
>>women in hopes of getting one of them pregnant. I just found out
>>recently one of them might be pregnant and of course you can imagine how
>>I feel. So just writing about this is kind of like therapy for me since
>>I can't talk about it to anyone in my family because I feel like
>>something is really wrong with me. Does anyone know if two abortions
>>can cause infertility and any suggestions for me?
>>Thanks for any advice.
>>
>>evemich11@att.net
>>>
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