ENDO Messages for October, 2004: Re: Abortion and Endo link?

Re: Abortion and Endo link?

From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri Oct 22 14:46:07 2004

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See there Paige, because you identified stress as being a contributor to your endo flare ups you are already one step ahead, you know that stress is bad for you so you need to do what you can to relieve stress. Avoiding stress is impossible, cannot be done, life is stressful.

Do we really have any choice about accepting endometriosis as a fact of our lives? I accept I have it but I do not accept that there is nothing I can do about the way it makes me feel. I know there are some days when nothing will work but I also know that I am getting more and more days when I feel really good. I don't think it could be called remission and is far from cure but it sure helps me enjoy my good days more!

You can find things that help you cope with the stress of your daily life. Be it putting a photo on your desk that you can use as a focal point to have a little mini-meditation session when you start feeling overwhelmed. A particular scent that you find refreshing that you can wear or carry with you. Taking a time out and having a cup of hot tea or glass of lemonade or going to the washroom and just sitting in one of the stalls with a wet, cool papertowel on your forehead or the back of your neck...whatever helps you through the moment.

Foods do have an affect on our moods as well as our waistlines. You've heard of comfort foods before...what are yours? Exercise does release endorphins which do help us cope better with pain but when you're laying on the floor in the fetal position the last thing you want to do is jump on a treadmill so try working in a brisk walk a couple of times a day for 10 or 15 minutes each when you do feel well and you should notice that your well moments stretch out a little longer and come a little more frequently. Turn your distress into eustress and make it work for you.

You have to make the effort to try to help yourself feel better so you can go to school and work and have a family life and a social life and be a life participant. It's far too easy to sink into a depression and begin to feel like you just can't go on. You have to choose to go on, you have to choose to be the one in control and you have to choose to be determined enough to try everything you can to live the way you want to instead of the way your disease makes you feel. You also have to accept that you will have days when you seriously doubt you want tomorrow to come. Try to prepare ahead for those days and keep your comfort items handy.

One of the hardest things about having a chronic disease like this is the pressure to keep a brave face on and act like you're fine because you don't look sick. Just be honest and matter-of-fact about how you're feeling with yourself and those around you. Let them know they can't fix it but such and such would help me feel better and let them get such and such for you (cup of tea, book, magazine, video rental, special dinner of comfort foods - whatever you need). It helps them feel like they are doing something for you and takes a bit of pressure off you to act like you're fine.

I do not guarantee any of this will work to 100% satisfaction 100% of the time but I think you'll all agree that any relief is better than nothing! I just hate seeing so many intelligent and worthwhile women being reducted to feeling like they have nothing to live for so hopefully my suggestions will help you find your own path to acceptance and healing of your heart and soul if not your bodies.

happy trails...

At Fri, 22 Oct 2004, Paige wrote: >
>It sounds like you are one of the lucky ones with endo that can just
>accept it and not be completely depressed. I unfortunately can't. I
>always try to determine what is causing it to act up. Although, you are
>right...you can't figure it out. However, with this said I can tell
>that it is related to stress for me. I also did not get endo
>genetically, as no one in my family has ever had any kind of female
>problems. I wish I could eliminate the things that seem to make it
>worse, but that would mean not working or going to school in order to
>eliminate the stress. I have not been able to relate anything else to
>my pain including my period, tampons, diet, or exercise. Endo just does
>what it wants when it wants.
>
>Paige
>

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