Re: Needing relief while trying to get pregnant after lap
From: Amanda (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed Oct 20 14:06:07 2004
Anna,
Thanks so much for the story. I can't tell you how true it rang. Since
the lap I've taken up a ballet class (embarrassing as it is) and I was
thinking of quiting. I think I will keep it up just as a distraction
and I'm also considering a sewing class too. I think you hit home
though that stress is a hurdle that is hard to avoid. Especially when
the world knows what is going on and checking back with every month :) I
really appreciate the suggestion and hope you have great rest of the
week.
--
Amanda
At Mon, 18 Oct 2004, Anna wrote:
>
>My husbad and I tried for close to 3 years before we finally got
>pregnant. Finally we adopted a little boy(13 months). The stress and
>edginess went away. I was elated to finally have a baby of our own.
>Three months later we realized we were pregnant. After talking more to
>the OBGYN, he really put it bluntly that the biggest hurdle to getting
>pregnant is our own stress as a woman. Especially in the world today
>where you (and I) want to plan it all out and everything. Be careful if
>you go to a Fertility specialist. Your body naturally resists pregnancy
>while your stressed because it is not an ideal place to bring a baby to
>term. A fertility specialist may be able to get you pregnant asap, but
>you may deliver early (and have terrible medical problems with the baby)
>or get pregnant with multiple eggs. Then you have more than one baby,
>delivery preterm, etc. The best advice I have is to distract yourself.
>Pick up a class at community college, start a new hobby together to get
>your mid off things. Say a little prayer and relax. Some hospitals are
>even offering mind and relaxation therapy. Give it a wing. And good
>luck. Before my pregnancy with her, I'd had 2 laps for endometriosis
>and 1 lap to remove my right ovary. Oh yeah and a LEEP for cervical
>displasia, so I went with a C-section because I couldn't dialate past 2.
>Ok, my reproductive tract is more like an LA aiport (always under
>construction).....
>
>GOOD LUCK.
>~Anna
>At Mon, 18 Oct 2004, Amanda wrote:
>>
>>Has anyone had a similar experience?
>>
>>I had a lap in Aug where I was diagnosed with extensive Stage I. I had
>>been on BC for 8 years (I'm 28) and had just started having endo pain
>>this year. After the lap my husband and I were encouraged to start
>>trying for kids and I have come off the BC only to find out I am
>>miserable. I’m having a hard time coping with the extensive pain of my
>>periods, and during ovulation. No luck on the pregnancy so far and I
>>think mentally I’ve changed too. I’m edgy and unhappy. The doctor said
>>try for 6 months before we move on to a fertility doctor but at this
>>point I’m so miserable I can’t imagine waiting that long.
>>
>>Feeling stuck between wanting kids and wanting to get some endo relief.
>>
>>Any help/suggestions/similar experiences out there??
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