ENDO Messages for August, 2004: Re: HELPLESS AND SEXLESS

Re: HELPLESS AND SEXLESS

From: Amy (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Aug 2 09:46:59 2004

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I am so sorry! Would he be willing to see a counselor? Maybe that would help. My sex life is not the same anymore either but so far, my hubby has been dealing with it with no complaints. I know he wishes we could have sex more often, but he sees me scream in pain many times too and tries to not push too hard. Some things that help me: try different positions. Some seem less "invasive" than others and are more comfortable for me. Me on top is good because I can control how deep the penetration is. I also take advil before. Means that we have to somewhat plan things out, but a 2-3 Advil takes the edge off the pain. Also, maybe try some things to relax first? I have hubby give me a back rub to relax and loosen me up. While sex hurts me more than it doesn't, I think a lot of times when I do feel OK, I get the mental block of thinking it is going to hurt. Relaxing first seems to help. Maybe also try something out of routine. Maybe a different location in the house, night away by yourselves, etc. Maybe he isn't so much not satisfied as bored with a routine? (not saying this is the case) Feel free to email me direct if you want. I know this is a hard situation to be and the mental pressure it puts on us as the woman is unbelievable! It is kind of a no-win situation isn't it? If I turn him down, I get that look and have to deal with him moping the rest of the day. If I give in when I don't want to, I just make myself physically miserable because it hurts me, plus he can sense when I am not into it. I wish I could make it all better for you!!

Hugs!! Amy

At Sat, 31 Jul 2004, anonymous wrote: >
>My husband has been great putting up with my endo crap for the past 5
>years. We don't have a normal sex life, but we do other things and it
>has seemed to be fine. Well, my husband told me last night that it's
>not enough anymore. I just don't know what to do. He loves me, but he
>is in his prime. I understand that, but there is only so much that I
>can do . . . and it's been done pretty much. Thanks for letting me
>vent. I needed that . . .

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