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Re: Helpless
From: Kim (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sat Jul 31 13:27:17 2004
I too am sorry for all the pain you are going through. I hate to hear
women on this site talk about depression medication as if it were an
option, like an extra. Depression is an actual disease, with biological
basis, add on all the stress of endo (or other issues) and you have a
real problem. Please don't listen to him about stopping the
medications. He would not say this if you had diabetes or thyroid
condition!!Someone earlier suggested taking him to an appointment, this
really worked for me. My husband tried to be supportive, but after
going to the office with me before and after surgery he changed his
attitude towards the disease. NOt that I wish this on anyone, but I
wish that it was distrubuted between men and women so that there would
be more research and treatments!!! Good luck!!
At Fri, 30 Jul 2004, Amy wrote:
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>Linda,
>Put it to him like this: How would you feel if someone was kicking you
>in the balls 24 hours a day??? (pardon the frank language!) One of my
>husband's friends was much like your husband and couldn't understand how
>I could possibly feel so bad. One day after getting sick of listening
>to his ignorance, I threw that line on him and let me tell you, he shut
>up immediately and has never made a peep since! I am so sorry to hear
>that your husband is not supportive. It is bad enough to suffer and
>live with endo and all the other problems without getting flack from the
>ones you love. Do not listen to him about taking your meds for
>depression either. I too suffer from it and the meds make me a better
>person and have changed my life. Money is a small price to pay for
>well-being.
>
>If you need a shoulder or friend, please email me at my work address:
>ameyer@dbllaw.com. Hang in there sweetie! All of us on the forum are
>here for you, even if your husband can't be.
>
>Hugs and lots of love!!!!
>Amy
>
>At Thu, 29 Jul 2004, Linda wrote:
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>>I really think i have to vent more than anything. My Husband does not
>>understand what its like to have endo He make me feel like its my fault
>>I have this Diseases By the way I have endo,Adenomyosis, Fibroid tumors.
>>He wants me to find a job now after not working since 1996, Its not like
>>I havent tried but who wants to hire someone who is unreliable. He
>>wants to retire and I can't blame him hes worked in the factory for 31
>>years. I'm at my wits end right now I'm writing this while in pain and
>>he has not talked to me in days. Because of the Diseases and the stress
>>I also was diagnosed with sever depression which he says I need to quit
>>taking my medication because of the price. Thanks for leting
>>me vent
>>
>>--
>>Linda
>>
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