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Re: Fed up with ENDO! - Thank You
From: Rosa (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Apr 29 16:31:58 2004
I wanted to say THANK YOU to those who responded to my message. I felt
so much better when I heard everyone's responses and I knew I wasn't
alone....so I wanted to thank you again! I will definitely try different
things and I'm sure we'll find something that works - for both of us!
Rosa
At Wed, 28 Apr 2004, kasi wrote:
>
>ahhh... i love it when someone vents and i can think 'ok, thats me
>too'. it feels so good knowing that i'm not the only one experiencing
>the same situation nearly exactly. i understand and know what you're
>going through and i'm so sorry that you have to go thorugh this pain
>too. i know, the day after i got the true diagnosis of my form of endo
>(impossible to remove by surgery) i didnt want to leave my place at all,
>and cried to my fiance that i just didnt want to leave and see all these
>women walking around with a healthy uterus. and it can be so stressful
>and frustrating in a relationship too, when you want to be sexual and
>close to each other, and it supposed to be a wonderful thing to share
>between each other but it hurts too... and i experience the same things
>too, with thinking about his pleasure more than my pain, but he's made
>it very clear to me that i'm always supposed to tell him when its
>hurting... he gets the same way too, where he gets upset because he's
>hurt me.... its a very difficult thing to deal with.
>
>my advice, is to try new positions. seriously... i know its
>discouraging and its not an area you want to try if you know it hurts,
>but just try. look up positions on the net, buy a sex book, and do
>other things to pleasure each other so you can feel you can be sexual
>and that you are a sexual being (i did and still have a hard time
>thinking about being sexual and being feminine if i cant be sexual....)
>just experiment and be understanding with each other and talk openly,
>thats the best way to be is if you can talk openly with each other...
>
>good luck:)
>kasi
>
>>>Hi Endo Sisters...
>>>
>>>Sorry if my message ends up being long, but I need to vent. I'm sick of
>>>feeling like this - I want to be like my friends or my sisters, who
>>>don't have endo. I just don't know what to do ... my bf and I try to
>>>have sex and he'll ask me if it hurts and tonight, I just got so sick of
>>>saying yes (in which case, we stop doing it altogether) that I said no.
>>>I feel awful. I don't want to lie to him and I don't want us to not be
>>>able to have sex. I came clean afterwards and told him it was painful.
>>>But the thing is if I say it hurts, we stop and I feel terrible because
>>>if he was with some other girl, that wouldn't be the situation, ya know.
>>>And if I tell him afterwards that it hurt, he feels bad because he made
>>>me hurt. I just don't know what to do anymore ... i feel as if I'm
>>>darned if I do and darned if I don't. He wants me to promise to tell
>>>him, but I know I won't because if its while we're doing it, I'll think
>>>more about his pleasure than my pain.. and I won't be honest. I'm so
>>>frustrated and sad and upset. Thanks for listening to me vent...I'm so
>>>happy I have this forum to vent and learn and to know that you all can
>>>understand.
>>>
>>>Rosa
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