ENDO Messages for April, 2004: Re: Fed up with ENDO!

Re: Fed up with ENDO!

From: kasi (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed Apr 28 15:52:42 2004

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ahhh... i love it when someone vents and i can think 'ok, thats me too'. it feels so good knowing that i'm not the only one experiencing the same situation nearly exactly. i understand and know what you're going through and i'm so sorry that you have to go thorugh this pain too. i know, the day after i got the true diagnosis of my form of endo (impossible to remove by surgery) i didnt want to leave my place at all, and cried to my fiance that i just didnt want to leave and see all these women walking around with a healthy uterus. and it can be so stressful and frustrating in a relationship too, when you want to be sexual and close to each other, and it supposed to be a wonderful thing to share between each other but it hurts too... and i experience the same things too, with thinking about his pleasure more than my pain, but he's made it very clear to me that i'm always supposed to tell him when its hurting... he gets the same way too, where he gets upset because he's hurt me.... its a very difficult thing to deal with.

my advice, is to try new positions. seriously... i know its discouraging and its not an area you want to try if you know it hurts, but just try. look up positions on the net, buy a sex book, and do other things to pleasure each other so you can feel you can be sexual and that you are a sexual being (i did and still have a hard time thinking about being sexual and being feminine if i cant be sexual....) just experiment and be understanding with each other and talk openly, thats the best way to be is if you can talk openly with each other...

good luck:) kasi

>>Hi Endo Sisters...
>>
>>Sorry if my message ends up being long, but I need to vent. I'm sick of
>>feeling like this - I want to be like my friends or my sisters, who
>>don't have endo. I just don't know what to do ... my bf and I try to
>>have sex and he'll ask me if it hurts and tonight, I just got so sick of
>>saying yes (in which case, we stop doing it altogether) that I said no.
>>I feel awful. I don't want to lie to him and I don't want us to not be
>>able to have sex. I came clean afterwards and told him it was painful.
>>But the thing is if I say it hurts, we stop and I feel terrible because
>>if he was with some other girl, that wouldn't be the situation, ya know.
>>And if I tell him afterwards that it hurt, he feels bad because he made
>>me hurt. I just don't know what to do anymore ... i feel as if I'm
>>darned if I do and darned if I don't. He wants me to promise to tell
>>him, but I know I won't because if its while we're doing it, I'll think
>>more about his pleasure than my pain.. and I won't be honest. I'm so
>>frustrated and sad and upset. Thanks for listening to me vent...I'm so
>>happy I have this forum to vent and learn and to know that you all can
>>understand.
>>
>>Rosa

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