Re: If it's not one thing it's another....venting
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Wed Apr 28 12:56:01 2004
At Wed, 28 Apr 2004, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
I totally agree, men take infertility a lot harder than women and you
need to be super sensitive to their egos. Please don't give up! Get a
second opinion.
LOL,
Cici
>
Girl, you really are Superwoman. :-) I think men take the unfertile
>problem a lot harder than women do. Not that women aren't upset about
>it, but it seems to affect their whole ideal of masculinity. Maybe
>after the initial shock wears off, he'll not be so upset. He sounds
>like a great guy, if he stood by you through all your problems. Endo is
>not an easy thing to live with for the sufferer or the loved ones.
>
>I would keep researching it. Like Amanda said, it could be a problem
>that is "fixable" or other options may present themselves.
>
>At Wed, 28 Apr 2004, Amanda wrote:
>>
>>So sorry for all pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers. My sister
>>and her husband had the same problem. She had endo and then after that
>>was fixed they found out that he had no sperm count. He was able to
>>have an operation to fix that (a vain was being cut off by a kidney
>>obstruction or something like that) and now they have two beautiful
>>children! There is always hope.
>>Amanda
>>
>>At Wed, 28 Apr 2004, Danielle wrote:
>>>
>>>Last month I had my first lap done. Doc diagnosed me with stage 3 endo
>>>and polycystic ovaries (not the syndrome). My fiance and I have been
>>>trying for a baby for nearly 4 years with no results. When Doc
>>>diagnosed me we assumed we were well on our way to conception. At my
>>>one month post op Doc said now would be the perfect time to start trying
>>>(boy was I happy) because I am all nice and clean inside. Before I
>>>leave he says he'll need to do a sperm count on my fiance just to rule
>>>everything else out. I take the cup home, he does his thing, and take
>>>it to the lab at the hospital. Feeling real good at this point....I
>>>call Doc and he says he'll call me back with the results that afternoon.
>>>They call and tell us that after all the hell of Endo, PSO, and trying
>>>to conceive my fiance has a sperm count of 0. Not one single sperm
>>>showed up in the test, not one. I was histerical and he is so upset. We
>>>call his mom who is a nurse, who works at a hospital and she gets on the
>>>ball calling the urologist(sp). Doc said he might be making sperm but
>>>they just can't get out and whatever is causing this is probably
>>>genetics. We go to my mom's to talk to her (she's not his biggest fan)
>>>and she tells me that maybe it's a sign I should find someone else, a
>>>private donor to do it the "old fashioned way", or not have kids. Great
>>>support from my mom. I am just so upset and shocked about it all. I
>>>don't know what to say to him other than I love you and we'll be
>>>alright. He's not taking it well and says he feels like less of a man,
>>>not good enough, etc etc. He has stood by me through my lap, mood
>>>swings, lack of labido, endo pain, doctors visits, etc etc. WHY US? Why
>>>not someone who doesn't want kids...I wish my mom would look past her
>>>dislike for him (it's been four years) and see how much the situation is
>>>hurting both of us. I am sorry this is so long but you gals have been
>>>here for every other question and vent I've had and I appreciate it.
>>>Danielle
>>>"If what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger, by now I should be
>>>Superwoman".
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