Re: Fed up with ENDO!
From: Lisa (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Apr 27 22:32:02 2004
Hi Rosa,
You have to be honest with him. Maybe their are other positions you
could try with him, and see if you can find one that might not be as
painful. I have been there done that. I have suffered through to many
painful times for "his pleasure" little did I know that he was worried
and not sure If I really Loved him. It took awhile but we did find a
common ground.
I do know what you are going through. We all do, do not apologize for
venting. That is why this forum is so helpful to all of us.
Good luck and best wishes,
LisaK
At Tue, 27 Apr 2004, Rosa wrote:
>
>Hi Endo Sisters...
>
>Sorry if my message ends up being long, but I need to vent. I'm sick of
>feeling like this - I want to be like my friends or my sisters, who
>don't have endo. I just don't know what to do ... my bf and I try to
>have sex and he'll ask me if it hurts and tonight, I just got so sick of
>saying yes (in which case, we stop doing it altogether) that I said no.
>I feel awful. I don't want to lie to him and I don't want us to not be
>able to have sex. I came clean afterwards and told him it was painful.
>But the thing is if I say it hurts, we stop and I feel terrible because
>if he was with some other girl, that wouldn't be the situation, ya know.
>And if I tell him afterwards that it hurt, he feels bad because he made
>me hurt. I just don't know what to do anymore ... i feel as if I'm
>darned if I do and darned if I don't. He wants me to promise to tell
>him, but I know I won't because if its while we're doing it, I'll think
>more about his pleasure than my pain.. and I won't be honest. I'm so
>frustrated and sad and upset. Thanks for listening to me vent...I'm so
>happy I have this forum to vent and learn and to know that you all can
>understand.
>
>Rosa
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