Re: 1st surgery
From: Vanessa (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sat Apr 17 06:02:26 2004
I noticed in your reply Margarette that you have had a couple of
husbands. I myself have never been married but have been through my
share of boyfriends that do not understand. I think a lot of my
relationships have ended because of Endo and my partners lack of
understanding and caring. I also think the utterly painful sex played a
part as well...as it would hurt so much i would avoid it at all cost. Is
your story similar? How many women out there have dealt with losing a
partner because of this disease? I guess I haven't found Mr right
then...if he were Mr right he would understand....wouldn't he????
At Sat, 17 Apr 2004, Margarette wrote:
>
>Good luck Heather, and I just wanted to answer because I, too, had a
>"grapefruit-sized mass" on my ovary (my dr's exact words, too) and a
>smaller one on the other ovary. This was 18 years ago (and I can't
>believe it was that long ago). When he removed the larger mass, he took
>a wedge cut out of the ovary, but the other ovary he didn't have to cut.
>Four years later (including one laser lap and two courses of Danocrine,
>one after each surgery plus one *husband* later), I had a baby. Haven't
>had success since, but didn't try until much later (yet *another*
>husband!). My new doctor and I agreed the the ovary that had the wedge
>cut no longer ovulates, but the other side seems to work fine. I
I noticed in your
>ovulate, but don't get pregnant. By the time I had the surgery to
>remove the masses, though, I was relieved to hear there was something
>wrong. I had been to seven doctors and each one found "nothing". One
>even did an exploratory lap, but because I was so young--22--didn't
>biopsy the "cysts" he removed. They couldn't have been endo, he said.
>Four years later, I was at stage IV. So having the ultrasound and the
>subsequent surgery assured me that I wasn't crazy or a whiner, something
>my doctors often implied. One even said it was because I wanted
>attention from my straying husband! Technology has really improved since
>those ancient days of '86, so you're not alone and things look brighter
>than they did then. Feel free to write me at connor@fillibabba.com if
>you need to vent/talk. Margarette
>
>At Fri, 16 Apr 2004, Heather wrote:
>>
>>I just found out that I have a mass on my right ovary the size of a
>>extra large grapefruit and one on my left ovary the size of a golf
>>ball/tennis ball. I am scheduled for surgery on April 30th. I a bit
>>nervous yet anxious about getting this all taken care of. I have tried
>>for 2 years to get pregnant with no success. I believe this could be
>>the reason. I am primarily nervous due to the fact of these masses
>>being on my ovaries. Has anyone gone through this? Or is going through
>>this? I need some support right now as I feel like I am alone.
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