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Re: Are all of these feelings NORMAL??
From: Michelle (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri Sep 12 16:13:05 2003
Kim,
Hay sweetie. You do sound down, I wonder if there is anything I or
anyone else on here could do for you. I've already had a hyst so if
you'd like to ask me questions about that I'd be glad to answer them.
I've never been married had kids, or had sex yet so unfortunatley I cant
help with those problems but be honest with your husband I'm sure he'd
appreciate you if you told him what's been going on how you've been
feeling. If he loves you and you love him, he will understand, I
promise you that. When someone loves you truely, they will except
everything about you, your pain, your mood swings, you just gotta be
honest with him and let him know what you've been feeling inside.
If you have any other questions I might be able to help with my email
address is shelle20@yahoo.com Email anytime you need someone to chat
with ok?
Take care of yourself,
Michelle I.
P.S. Your feeling are normal by the way, completely normal. We
all have feelings like that every once in a while. I know I
do.
At Fri, 12 Sep 2003, Kim wrote:
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>Hello, here I am once again. You guys have been great. I have just
>been feeling really down lately. I guess it probably is normal w/all of
>the pain we deal w/on a daily basis. I feel bad complaining, b/c unlike
>some of you on the board, I have had my children so at this point in my
>life that is not a concern, couldn't imagine dealing with that on top of
>this, I feel for all of you. I just feel so rotten that I am just not
>myself and I don't like it. Usually I'm an upbeat person always smiling
>and joking around and I miss that person, haven't seen her in a while.
>I'm so sick and tired of being sick and tired! I'm sure you can all
>relate. I have so much hope in my lap., and I probably should face
>reality that it probably won't "cure" me, but atleast I hope to get some
>answers and go from there. I guess one of the biggest things is that I
>just married the love of my life after being together for 4 years (my
>2nd marriage), we got Married in Aug., almost had to call off the
>wedding b/c I landed myself in the hospital just a couple of days before
>our wedding from the PAIN! Anyway, we couldn't even make love on our
>wedding night, and our intimate life just is no where the same and I
>feel guilty about that. Deep down I know I shouldn't, but I can't help
>it. We looked so forward to being married, and I feel like I'm not
>being a good enough wife. I try to keep up w/everything around the home
>as I'm not working right now, hoping to get something soon when I'm up
>to it. He's a wonderful man and a excellent step-father to my children!
>I try not to complain all of the time, but I wonder if he doesn't
>realize how hard this is for me right now b/c I think I try to "hide"
>the pain if I can b/c I don't want to be a baby. Then I push myself too
>far being superwoman and it just kills me! I will make love w/him (he
>says no we don't have to I don't want you in pain) but I do b/c I feel
>like I'm "neglecting" his needs, then I pay for it afterwards and try to
>play it down. How can I really explain this all to him and help him to
>understand what I'm going thru and make him realize that I'm not trying
>to push him a way, I'm just not myself lately! It really stinks b/c the
>last month or 2 has been the WORSE for me, and who wants to start their
>marriage out like this, I guess maybe it'll bring us closer?!?! I always
>try to look on the bright side, sometimes it's hard as I'm sure you can
>relate! Any place I should have him look online to help him understand
>what I'm going thru and that it has nothing to do w/him, I'm just not
>myself but love him and need him more than ever! Thanks for your help,
>and sorry this is so long!
>Kim
>
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>Kim Bills
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