Re: problems with having an orgasm, very upset, frustrated and scared please help!!!!!!!!
From: Denise (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed Sep 10 08:48:46 2003
Anon,
I too have had problems having an orgasm-I get very few and only in
these past couple months. I found that a vibrator is truly a woman's
best friend. Sex hurts for me but if I use the vibe just on my clit it
works very well to give me an orgasm. My BF is wonderful about
understanding-tries as hard as he can at times to no avail but he
doesn't let him get him down and also doesn't blame me for not being
able to get off. Just a warning about the vibe-don't use it daily-it is
proven that if you do that in time you will only be able to get off by a
vibe and no other way:)
Shade And Sweet Water--Denise
At Tue, 9 Sep 2003, anonymous wrote:
>
>hi all,
>i have a question and was a little to embarressed to write my name to
>this post, although we are all ladies here i'm young and a little
>ashamed of this subject, anyways i'm unmarried with no children, had a
>hyst last year and had overies taken out a few months back, since that
>surgury i am unable to have an orgasm, this is very frustrating and it
>makes me feel horrible, i already feel like in my life i'm going to miss
>out on sex, cause alot of you women say on here how having sex really
>hurts, well i'm a virgin so i dont know about that yet, but i used to
>masterbate all the time just to learn my body and i felt it was a
>healthy part of living, well since the hyst everything was good and
>stayed the same, i could have one no problem it was a bit harder and
>took longer but it still worked, well i tried the other day first time
>in a few months, and i just couldnt, sat here for an hour trying and
>then i gave up, started crying, i'm so sorry to vent like this, but i
>just dont know what to do, i'm scared what if i can never have one
>again, what else in life do i have to live for, when i find the man of
>my dreams what if i cant get pleased anymore, what kind of relationship
>or marriage would that be, especailly with this painful sex situation i
>hear so much about. please someone maybe reassure me, or maybe there is
>a technique you could tell me about. i would try anything, i've been
>having alot of anxiety since this happend a few nights ago, maybe to
>alot of people its no big deal, but to a young adult its a very big
>deal, orgasm is a big deal, especially for a virgin, i want to have a
>good and healthy sex life when i find mr. right i just hope i can. i'm
>so scared.
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