ENDO Messages for September, 2003: Re: problems with having an orgasm, very upset, frustrated and scared please help!!!!!!!!

Re: problems with having an orgasm, very upset, frustrated and scared please help!!!!!!!!

From: Tiffany (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Sep 9 23:48:04 2003

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First off, I completely support the fact that you have used masturbation as a means to learn about your body. I am 18.. so I am also quite young yet this has been a means of great discovery about my own body, my own needs and my own desires. But maybe the fact that you were putting too much thought into it is what prevented you from acheiving orgasm. I know that in my own experiences I can be quite in the mood for it, and even using my vibrator I have had trouble b.c of things on my mind or simply thinking much too much instead of taking my time and going with the flow. Although I will say that I am having trouble acheiving orgasm with my boyfriend since using my vibrator for so long.. which in INDEED frustrating.

As far as worrying about how this could affect your future relationships... I understand that physicallity is indeed a very important part of a relationship.. but it should not be a "ruling" factor in the lasting ability. If sex is the biggest factor in any end to a relationship then you should look at it and think of what type of relationship that was in the first place.

These are only my opinions..... Tiffany

At Tue, 9 Sep 2003, anonymous wrote: >
>hi all,
>i have a question and was a little to embarressed to write my name to
>this post, although we are all ladies here i'm young and a little
>ashamed of this subject, anyways i'm unmarried with no children, had a
>hyst last year and had overies taken out a few months back, since that
>surgury i am unable to have an orgasm, this is very frustrating and it
>makes me feel horrible, i already feel like in my life i'm going to miss
>out on sex, cause alot of you women say on here how having sex really
>hurts, well i'm a virgin so i dont know about that yet, but i used to
>masterbate all the time just to learn my body and i felt it was a
>healthy part of living, well since the hyst everything was good and
>stayed the same, i could have one no problem it was a bit harder and
>took longer but it still worked, well i tried the other day first time
>in a few months, and i just couldnt, sat here for an hour trying and
>then i gave up, started crying, i'm so sorry to vent like this, but i
>just dont know what to do, i'm scared what if i can never have one
>again, what else in life do i have to live for, when i find the man of
>my dreams what if i cant get pleased anymore, what kind of relationship
>or marriage would that be, especailly with this painful sex situation i
>hear so much about. please someone maybe reassure me, or maybe there is
>a technique you could tell me about. i would try anything, i've been
>having alot of anxiety since this happend a few nights ago, maybe to
>alot of people its no big deal, but to a young adult its a very big
>deal, orgasm is a big deal, especially for a virgin, i want to have a
>good and healthy sex life when i find mr. right i just hope i can. i'm
>so scared.

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