ENDO Messages for April, 2003: Re: Feelin Down

Re: Feelin Down

From: Ashli (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Apr 28 23:50:44 2003

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Hey you guys, I'm young (20) and single (messy breakup with the man of my dreams) :( and likely have endo too. But I won't know for sure until May 16. The whole kids issue is definately a tough one. I have been pregnant twice, but not on purpose (go figure, the condom breaks the one time when I forget my pill and am on antibiotics?!?). Both ended up as miscarriages around 12 weeks (one when I was 18, and the last one a little over a month ago). Probably for the best, but it is still hard. Major decisions like this are totally rough, especially at such a young age when we have so many other things to be worrying about. I don't know. I guess all we can do is be there for each other, right? Smile!! -Ash At Sun, 27 Apr 2003, Kayla wrote: >
>At Sun, 27 Apr 2003, Jillian wrote:
>>
>>I am 23 years old. young i guess. Its nice, so very
>>uplifting to hear words of comfort. To know people are
>>goin through the same things. I have a bit of a
>>question. This endo makes me feel like i have to have
>>children right now. I dont know how to explain this
>>but i was adopted so i really dont want adoption. I am
>>in one of the best relationships of my life. About
>>three months ago, i began to hint to him that i had a
>>limited time for childbearing. He said he wants to
>>wait eight years before he has children. Id like to
>>wait but i feel pressured. I got anxious and sad and
>>scared and things are beginning to fall apart. I dont
>>know what to do. Any advice on this?
>
>Julian,
>Does your b/f or husband know that the older you are having children the
>risks are greater? So, if you wait 8 years....you'll be over 30, making
>the pregnancy and delivery riskier with not only having endo....I too
>want to have children. I am 20, single w/ no b/f and seems like no one
>is interested. I mean who wants to date eventually marry someone who is
>sick all the time? The doctor who I saw Friday when I went back to the
>hospital cause I had a fever was jokingly pushing me to become
>pregnant....eventhough knowing he had good intentions in mind, it got me
>back to thinking that w/ stage IV endo the likelyhood of actually having
>my own children is little. Do you feel comfortable explaining to your
>guy that the longer you wait, the less chances of having a child? I bet
>he's thinking about money, etc...having a baby is a big responsibility
>and I am sure that he doesn't want to have the child grow up in living
>paycheck to paycheck....he wants to make sure that there is food to put
>on the table eachday and a house over your heads. Guys kinda worry over
>that stuff more so than women. I think if you can't talk to him about
>this disease and how it affects your fertility, write him a letter. It
>helped to also read Joe w/ Endo from the ENdometriosis Sourcebook by the
>ERC. It has a bit of humor but it also puts having endo in the male
>perspective. It's worth a try....You aren't alone in this.....I am here
>if you ever need to talk....feel free to email me off the list at
>keara786@yahoo.com
>
>--
>Kayla
>**Just someone who cares, preparing for the medical field**
>

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