Re: Adoption has saved us much Endo pain
From: Rachel (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sat Mar 15 05:56:33 2003
anonymous, congratulations! i have enormous respect for your decision,
and i'm so very happy for you and your husband. please keep us posted
on how the adoption process is going. wishing you pain-free days...
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rachel
At Fri, 14 Mar 2003, anonymous wrote:
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>Endo has led me to adoption. Hubby and I were just approved and now are
>on a waiting list for a baby ! In about a year we'll be parents ! We
>opted to not go thru the IUI's and IVF's and just get on with having a
>family. We did try one IUI, but it hurt, and I felt like a cow. The
>nurse gave my hubby's sperm to a diff lady and I had to get it back,,,
>it was awful. Mostly the worst was the drugs that accompany the IUI,
>the Chlomid made me very ill, I beleive because it made me ovulate which
>boosted my estrogen (which endo eats). So, after many bad side efffects
>we decided against the 'un-natural' impregnation plan. We decided to
>adopt at that time. Because we didn't go thru all that crap we are
>approx 5-7 yrs younger than most other couples adopting and also we have
>retained much mental strenght/stamina that would otherwise have been
>wasted. Many of the other couples adopting looked so tired and used up.
>We looked almost 15 years younger than them, even though it was much
>less. We've been advised by many books and Dr.'s that infertility can
>wreck a marriage - I certainly see how, it's painful enough to not be
>able to have your own kids, it's even more painful to keep trying to
>have them for 10 years, and once you've failed for 10 years that is even
>more painful. I feel I have avoided 1/2 the pain of endo by avoiding
>the years and years of trying. Soon we will have a baby and I will be a
>stay at home Mom ! I can't wait. I will still be a young Mom !
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