Re: All advice welcome
From: Leslie (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Mar 3 05:32:32 2003
I cannot say about the medicines she is on, but when I had my LUNA in
Jan. and the pain came back, I got depressed as well, I was looking for
this to help and it didn't and now I am back to square one finding
something else to do. If Amy is like me and many others, she just wants
something done that will help the first time around.
I personally hate taking "baby steps" with my treatments of ANY medical
problem. The doc says, try this, and if that doesn't work we will do
this,and then so on.
I can only imagine how hard it is on you husbands. I know my hubby gets
frustrated a lot and doesn't know what to do. Just don't let her shut
you out, which is easy to do. I do that to my hubby alot. I feel like
he cannot relate to menstrual cramps and not to endo, so why drag him in
my pain. I cannot offer a lot of advice what to do as clear from the
message, I just wanted to offer some advice as to what her mindset MIGHT
be, only from my personal experince.
I try to make myself clear that this is my opinion because there are
many people here on this board that will start this into an agrument if
I try to force my opinion on anyone. You know what I am talking about.
Good Luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
At Mon, 3 Mar 2003, holly wrote:
>
>it could be depression because of the surgery. i know that after my
>endo was diagnosed in november, i started getting very depressed. i
>think it was the fact that i have a very real disease that i have no
>control of and no hope for a cure.
>
>it could also be the meds. when she sees her doctor, find out if the
>meds might react with the antidepressant she's already on. some meds
>make them more potent, others reduce the effectiveness.
>
>also, being in constant pain is pretty depressing in itself. she may
>feel helpless because she might not be able to do all the things she
>used to do. she might want to help more with the kids, but not have the
>energy.
>
>the only advice i can give is to just be there for her. hold her,
>comfort her, give her time.
>
>i'm going to my family doc today to talk about the depression i've been
>experiencing since nov. i'm considering counseling. if her depression
>gets worse, perhaps you could find someone who could help. but for now,
>give her some time, see how she is when she is off the meds and out of
>pain.
>
>hth
>
>At Sun, 2 Mar 2003, Husband wrote:
>>
>>This is Mr.Swanson. My wife is Amy. I am asking you ladies for some
>>help. My wife had her Luna and Lap on the 21st of February. Since
>>then, she is still in a good deal of pain. She has an appt with her
>>doctor on Tuesday. She is on Vicodin and Ibuprofen. I am asking for
>>advice about her emotional state. I think that she has slipped into a
>>deep depression. Is this due to the surgery or pain medication or the
>>pain itself or all of the above or is this normal for anyone that
>>suffers from endometriosis? She cries a lot and I try to console her.
>>She is not mean or belligerent- but she does cry through out the day and
>>is very withdrawn. I want to be there for her- but I do not know how
>>anymore. She does not even participate in this forum anymore. She does
>>not do a lot of the things that she once enjoyed. If any of you have
>>any suggestions I would greatly appreciate it. I want to help her. I
>>want to pull her out of this depression. She is on anti-depressants and
>>she is kind. I know her well though. And I know that she is sad. Any
>>ideas? Sorry if I am bothering any of you. I am a guy and I cannot
>>really relate to her suffering. But I do want to try my best to do my
>>part, for her sake and that of our children. Thank you for your time. I
>>am clueless...
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Leslie
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