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Re: Personal Question
From: Amy (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Dec 5 07:06:34 2002
Leslie,
Glad I could help you feel a little better. Things never seem as bad if
you know you are not alone. I know my hubby gets frustrated too, and
probably gets tired of me saying I hurt or don't feel good, but he is
always patient and comforting. I don't know how I would survive without
him. Sounds like you have a great husband too. You guys will make it.
Believe it or not, my battle with endo has actually strengthened my
marriage. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Please feel free to
email me direct any time you want to vent or just need a shoulder!
Amy
At Thu, 5 Dec 2002, Leslie wrote:
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>Amy, thanks it really does help knowing that I am not crazy. I feel
>like it is always something and I know my hubby feels the same way. He
>understands, I guess he has no choice when there are tears running down
>my face, but I know it is frustrating to him. You described it much
>better than me. Thanks. I was at a loss for words yesterday.
>
>At Wed, 4 Dec 2002, Amy wrote:
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>>Leslie,
>>I have Stage 3 Endo and just wanted to write and tell you that I
>>experience the same things you do, although thankfully, not all the
>>time. Many times low-key foreplay will cause me to hurt too, and then
>>actual intercourse is even worse. I have always wondered how just
>>getting aroused can cause so much pain. Maybe hormone level surge? Or
>>contractions in the uterus? Not sure, just know that it sometimes hurts.
>>Just knowing that I MIGHT hurt during foreplay and intercourse is enough
>>to kill the mood for me. Hard to get excited about it when you know
>>pain will probably either occur during or after. I often hurt for a day
>>or two afterwards as well and even find myself spotting blood sometimes
>>after sex. I am very fortunate to be married to a wonderful man who is
>>always understanding despite his frustration! But it is still hard. I
>>am 31 years old, in the prime of my life and sexual peak, yet sometimes
>>when my hubby looks at me with that "twinkle" in his eye I just want to
>>run!
>>
>>I have found that trying to relax first helps. Hubbie gives lots of
>>back rubs which helps me to relax and get in the mood. I also try to
>>just "mentally prepare" myself. Sometimes I can tune the pain out long
>>enough to enjoy the encounter and then worry about the pain afterwards.
>>
>>Hope it helps a little to know you are not alone! Feel free to email me
>>privately if you want to vent further. Hang in there!!!!!!!!
>>
>>Amy
>>
>>At Wed, 4 Dec 2002, Leslie wrote:
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>>>I know that this is a personal question, but I feel comfortable knowing
>>>that everyone here is going through this pain.
>>>
>>>I know that painful sex with deep pentration is normal pain for endo, I
>>>don't experince that pain too much, but the one thing I do suffer from
>>>pushes me away from sex. When I start to get "turned on" my tummy
>>>cramps like crazy and it doesn't feel good. I am just talking about
>>>"starting to get in the mood", nothing too intense. I know it is a endo
>>>pain because of the way it feels. My doc asks me if there is pain with
>>>intercourse and I know what he means, but is this part of it as well.
>>>After intercourse, I cramp for a day or so. It is unreal.
>>>
>>>The reason I bring this up was because last night my hubby was giving me
>>>a back rub and I started hurting because I started to think about it,
>>>got a little turned on. This is ridiculous.
>>>
>>>OK, I just needed to vent, but I needed to vent to someone whom I
>>>thought would understand how I feel.
>>>Thanks for listening and any sympathizing readers input would be great.
>>>
>>>Period is supposed to start tomorrow so I am not in happy land right
>>>now.
>>>
>>>--
>>>Leslie
>>>
>>>--
>>>Leslie
>>>
>--
>Leslie
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