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Re: 2nd LAP done two weeks ago...doctors crude advice
From: Kimberly (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed Oct 23 22:03:49 2002
Anon -- Perhaps I am just unlearned about "macrobiotics", but what I know
of it, if you are a vegetarian and you also avoid citrus/caffeine/carbonated
drinks/refined flours & sugars, then you are mostly adhering to the
principles. What does this dr think it is? And just so you think about it,
remember that no matter how good a surgeon this guy is, he is only another
human being. No better than you, and not even necessarily smarter. God
gave him a skill with surgery. For him to act like a jackass to people he's
supposed to be helping, people who pay him for his services and make it
possible for him to put food, macrobiotic or otherwise, on his table, is
unconscionable. Some of these drs like to blame something outside of their
control for the failure of surgeries/meds to "cure" endo. What better way
for a surgeon to shirk blame than to accuse the patient for not making
themselves well -- classic blaming of the victim. I don't know this guy,
but I already can't stand him. There are plenty of really good drs out
there that have a good bedside manner, you just have to look. I have found
2 in my area. My dr was honest with me, honest with himself, when he told
me that there were lesions he couldn't remove and didn't recommend be
removed. He said he thought I would need additional surgery in the future,
but he thought that would be years down the road....like 15 years. Not
every few. And he has NEVER suggested any dietary or lifestyle changes to
me. The ones I have made, I made on my own so that I felt I was empowering
myself. And I have been comfortable with those changes. If this dr is
making you uncomfortable, you owe it to your nerves and emotional wellbeing
to find someone new, or at least give someone else a try.
((hugs))
Kim
>----- Original Message -----
From: "anonymous" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
To: "Multiple recipients of list ENDO" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
Sent: Wednesday, October 23, 2002 10:18 PM
Subject: 2nd LAP done two weeks ago...doctors crude advice
> Hey I'm new to this forum..but I jsut had my 2nd lap done 2 to 2and half
> weeks ago. the doctor found my endo and removed what he found....4
> years ago this resulted in almost no pain during intercourse or any
> ohter time except my period which was also cut down big time. the
> surgery worked for about 3 years pain free....I know this is
> common...when he took the tissue that he removed out ...they examined
> it...and surprise surprise he said well your endo is the reacurring
> type.....like I didn't know that....however,,,,He is very big into
> chinese medicine...he has basically told me that if I don't go on a
> macrobiotic diet then I will get my endo back...he seems to think that
> it is the only way to cure it...I know though research that there is
> absolutly no proof that anything is a cure for endo! I excercise
> fantically, I have been a vegetarian since I was 12. My doctor seems to
> think that it is then my fault if my endo pain comes back in a few
> years...he seems to really believe if I do not comply with a diet that I
> find in truth to be potentially harmful to my health...in that there may
> be shakey proof that it help with symptoms...but not as a cure. I hate
> being told that it is my fault that my endo comes back...I live a very
> healthy lifestyle....I went on a no acidic, no caffine diet for 6 months
> before my operation that I found through the endo sourcebook that helped
> the symptoms...but did not cure the disease....a diet I never faultered
> from once in 6 months...and still my doctor seemed to think I am lazy
> and don't want to do anything to help myself....the reason I go to this
> man is because he is a skilled surgeon////when he removes my endo in
> general I am pain free for 3 to 4 years......I ahve to however, deal
> with the fact that everytime I go to him the first question out of his
> mouth is are you a macrobiotic......then he shakes hishead and says
> well..."we can't just give you surgery every 3 years" as if this diet is
> going to somehow cure my disease......I feel extremely guilty and I
> don't even want to go back for my post op..cause I know he is going to
> blame me for any problems I have post -op on my unwilling ness to try
> the one treatment I feel uncomfortable trying....what should I do? I
> feel like this is all my fault when he lays that stuff on me....I have a
> frigin disease.....what would someone say if I said i had cancer and my
> doctor told me it's my fault cause I didn't go and have
> acupuncture....what do I say to this doctor..I don't want to loose him
> as a surgeon....but I feel he really mistreats me...he's a terrible
> people person and has a horrible badside manner...I think that if I come
> to him the next time he might refuse to do the surgery on the grounds
> I'm not a macrobiotic...crazy but true.......I'm serious thinking about
> not going to my post op just cause of thee guilt involved in
> going....help please
>
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