Re: Why are people so horrible.....
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Sun Jul 14 09:35:52 2002
In a message dated 7/11/2002 6:16:43 PM Central Daylight Time,
Mstrskey@aol.com writes:
> Sorry to be venting here, but I dunno where else to rant right now.
> I have 2 jobs...I work days 8 hrs a day for the YMCA doing childcare and
> then at night I work 3rd shift for UPS. I have been reminding my
> supervisors at both places for almost 2 weeks now that I am slated to
> have surgery (lap) at the end of the month and that I will be using my
> vacation time so I don't miss out on pay for the week I will be off
> post-op. Well the Y has been griping about wanting a Dr. letter for
> verification so I finally bring one in which details what is being done
> etc. and one of my sups comes to me today wanting to know why I'm
> taking one of our busiest weeks off when I am only having out patient
> surgery? She then proceeds to say that if I only need the one day she'll
> give me the one day but since the letter from my physician said nothing
> about length of recovery etc or needing time off for such that she
> wasn't sure if she would be able to give me the whole week! GRRRRR!!!!!
> I was mad enough about this but then when I went into my job at UPS last
> night my left side was really killing me. I mean pain so bad I could
> hardly walk much less move boxes and I was going at a snails pace. I
> had wanted to call in but I've already got to many absences. Well my
> sup. there...a 21 yr. old single male...comes up to me and tells me to
> pick up the pace and when I say I can't and why he walks off shaking his
> head and says to one of the other guys we work with that he wishes he
> could have been born a woman so that he could MAKE UP these mystery
> aches and pains whenever he didn't feel like working. I'm normally
> pretty good about ignoring the stupid little remarks they make but for
> some reason I just went into the bathroom and cried.
> I just wish I could make people understand that I'm not using this as an
> excuse to flake off. That even though I may look fine that there really
> is something wrong and it really does hurt like hell. God I can't wait
> for this lap so I can start getting better!!! I'm so tired of feeling
> pain and not being able to make it better and of people thinking I'm
> using this illness to slack off and not do my share.
> Sorry to vent, but it's been a bad few days and I needed to let it out
> somewhere.
>
Hon, you are not going throught much that we all haven't been through before.
I know that's not much comfort, but at least know you are NOT alone. We have
all dealt with the @$$holes telling us, or others around us, things that
amount to us faking it. I don't know how anyone could EVER get used to
something like that, but at least we know that they are stupid, and we really
ARE sick whether they believe it or not! IF they don't believe us, believe it
or not, it will come back on them, even if we don't see it happen. They will
know the feeling of having someone not believe that they are sick. Just
remember that WE know you are sick, and we know how you feel. As a matter of
fact, I can't IMAGINE how you are even working right now! You are a damned
sight better than I am! I can't "just grin and bear it" and keep working, so
you are doing great, and that comes from someone who KNOWS how bad you are
feeling! So I hope that helps.
Diane/Tam to my friends
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