ENDO Messages for May, 2002: Re: my husband

Re: my husband

From: Carol (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed May 29 22:45:56 2002

Messages sorted by: [ date ][ thread ][ subject ][ author ]
Next message: anonymous@obgyn.net: "Re: my husband"
Previous message: elizabeth: "Re: my husband"
In reply to: marie: "my husband"
Next in thread: anonymous@obgyn.net: "Re: my husband"

Frist off my reply to my husbands are you ok I understand " is usually a snalre. Then I reply back Can I kick YOU in the balls??? Maybe after a few good well placed hits we can talk about HOW YOU UNDERstand. I sure youll be standing under then. Belive me I for one am in no mood to for pity either. Your not alone and yes I do belive are husbands deal with more than they have to.

Now for the sex issue. For 3-4 years its been hit and miss mostly miss. For more than 6 months its been FU** YOU! Ah great sex:) thanx:0 My husband cant even sleep with me anymore I hurt to much. It just happened over time slow and gradual. HE made the choise, not me. More than once I laid there qiutly crying, as time went on the tears we more visiable. The last couple attempts lead to him getting shoved off the bed. I sat shirking in pain. Hed have to draw a bath. Id even tried taking IB and a warm bath with a galss of wine or Kulua. Nothing helps any longer.

Hes been with it the whole time and truly cares. He feels like crap about it and feels sex is the closest two people can get. Scared. Most men do. If your Husbands response is pain and sorrow for you, I wouldnt worry. Now the time to connect in other was. Take a college class together. Start a craft together. Nothing to strenous, if you tire likly youll both give up. Try a class like Wine Apreation, Art Apreation, or Astrogly. Crafts a great projet? Try scrop booking. It can really bring a couple together.

As for counseling if hes ok with this. Dont worry. You might want to look into it. Sex isnt everyting. And every normal marriage goes through dry spells.

Lastly dont feel like your alone. I freaked for a long time to. Ive come to find its more about the wife role in the family, you know cook, wife, chuffer, sex goddess. And even more the control Ive lost. Get mad and vent:) Its good for you. Take a journal. Write here often. Talk to your husband and find out what feels good for BOTH of you.

May you both find peace:) Carol

At Wed, 29 May 2002, marie wrote: >
>My husband bless his heart is trying so hard to be there for me even
>when im swinging moods i feel so bad for him sometimes, i blew up on him
>the other night when he said to me i understand how you feel. I was
>like oh really you do your legs hurt your fist come up ready to fight if
>someone comes near your breast or belly. Because i sure dont see how
>you feel the knife fight going on in my abdomen or the i cant walk
>syndrome because the pressure feels like everything is about to fall out
>of my stomach.
>He was like okay i felt so bad that it hurt my feeling cuz i dont want
>him to understand i want him to just love me and say i wish you would
>feel better.
>I am always chatting away about you all and what other people are going
>through is similar to me. He is glad i found this website.
>the other night i had a mission to make it through sex and i think i
>almost threw up it was hurting and making just sick. he got mad cause i
>was trying to have sex while i was hurting He loves me so much he doesnt
>like it when i do that but i told him i dont want to neglect him and him
>leave me for some girl who loves to give out to married men. He freaked
>out but it scares me because i love him so much and i want to have sex
>but it just kills me, and i feel so bad for him. Does anyone understand
>where im coming from? i m rambling incoherently about this. I know this
>man loves me more than anything it makes me sad for him. But he wont
>look into these support groups and i dont know what to say sometimes i
>keep telling him there are some cool people (men) who are experiencing
>this your not alone but he wont listen.
>well i will quit.

Next message: anonymous@obgyn.net: "Re: my husband"
Previous message: elizabeth: "Re: my husband"
In reply to: marie: "my husband"
Next in thread: anonymous@obgyn.net: "Re: my husband"

Women's Insurance Checklist from Auto Insurance Quote

use when must restrict search to only the endometriosis forum...
Enter search keywords:
	Returns per screen: Require all keywords: