ENDO Messages for May, 2002: Re: ally sad. Didn't know where else to go.

Re: ally sad. Didn't know where else to go.

From: Suzanne (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon May 20 16:43:25 2002

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I am very sorry for your loss, especially when you have already suffered so many of them. It is a very taxing event, and there is something really wrenching about the feeling of "oh no--again?".

And it can be very frustrating when those around you seek to console you in ways that misapprehend the nature of your pain--through anger and blame at someone else (something that many people use to cope), or trying to minimize your sense of emotional loss ("you can try again"). I am sure you know that they are trying to support you, but doing it in terribly clumsy ways.

Life is dealing you a hard blow right now, but yes, you can heal from it. But that can't be forced, and can't happen without grief. So kindest wishes for you as you grieve this latest hardship.

At Mon, 20 May 2002, Zoe wrote: >
>Been told today that I've just had another miscarriage.
>
>I was told that I couldn't get pregnant naturally as I wasn't ovulating
>and I was in a false menopause cos of the Zoladex injections I was
>having. After 5 months of pain free bliss, I started having really bad
>pains on Saturday and have been bleeding for 3 days now. Went to the
>doctor today and after examining me he told me I was having a
>miscarriage. Apparantly me and my husband should have been using some
>sort of contraception even though I was on the Zoladex.
>
>I just don't know what to think anymore. I feel as though someones
>punched me in the stomach and don't know how much more I can take.
>
>My family and friends are all angry at the doctors for not telling me
>that this could happen. I just want someone to give me a hug and tell
>me that everything will be alright, but everyone seems to think that
>because I didn't know I was pregnant that I shouldn't be too upset. They
>keep telling me that I'll have a baby some day. I just want to know why
>me! This is the third baby I've lost now and I can't seem to stop
>crying.
>
>I'm sorry this post is so depressing, but I really needed someone to
>talk to who might understand how much I'm hurting.
>
>Thanks for listening.
>
>Zoe.

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