Re: (((Marlene))) (((Angie)))
From: Marlene (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Oct 31 09:13:16 2000
Hi Angie:
Your so very welcomed for the support. When I read your first post my
heart cried for you my endo sis....
I know you just want and need your husband to understand you right
now.....and I am sure he will in time. Try to keep the communication
open with him....that doesn't seem fair for you to have to explain
things, we feel men should be able to figure this out on their
own....but sometimes men can be a tad thick lol *wink*.
With the love making....tell him how much that increases your
pain....and try alternate forms of pleasure for both of you. Intimacy
is a very important element in a marriage but it has to be enjoyed by
both.
I wrote my story and that poem as a theraputic release for me....It has
been a hard struggle for sure and it's not over yet....but I try and
keep the faith that it will be. I count my blessings for what I do
have.
Take care Angie and if you need to vent again....do it...it feels so
good to get those emotions out. If you would like to email me
privately.....do so anytime *smiles*.
Big Hugsss
Marlene
At Tue, 31 Oct 2000, Angela wrote:
>
>Hello
>Marlene thank you so much the support. I am just so upset, I read your poem,
>and that is how I feel (silent cries). Marlene I am sorry you had to go
>through so much. I have been giving my husband the silent treatment since
>yesterday evening. Marlene, I just want him to understand, you know. Here I
>am last night sound asleep, until I was woken up by him trying to make love
>to me!!! I am in to much pain sometimes to make love. I feel like he doesnt
>care, even though he tells me that he loves me, and that he cares. Sometimes
>I just need a shoulder to cry on, and I feel that if I am crying on his then
>he may think that I am just looking for sympathy, But all I am looking for
>is support.Marlene I am very thankful that there are people as sweet and
>caring like you out in this world. thanks. warm wishes, angie
>
>>From: anonymous@obgyn.net (Marlene)
>>Reply-To: anonymous@obgyn.net
>>To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO <anonymous@obgyn.net>
>>Subject: (((Angie)))
>>Date: Mon, 30 Oct 2000 19:22:01 -0600
>>
>>Hi Angie:
>>
>>Sorry to hear that your husband isn't being supportive with you right
>>now.....this disease affects not only us but the people around us that
>>love us. Unfortunately as much as our loved ones want to be
>>understanding...they truley don't know what we go through....
>>
>>I don't know how long you have had endo but I am wondering if he has
>>read anything about it....there are some informative sites and a lot of
>>personal pages that include other women's stories. Perhaps if he read
>>some of these stories it would broaden his understanding and realize how
>>hard it is for endo suffers, aside from the pain we deal with....the
>>loss of the quality of our lives, the inability to do what we use to do
>>or want to do.
>>
>>Belle's video can be quite helpful too.....after viewing it he will see
>>the other women being interviewed probably say the same things you have
>>said to him....Know that is what happened in my case.
>>
>>If you would like you can let him read "my story"....I don't know if it
>>will help..but it just might....to know that other women are
>>experiencing the same thing. When I was first diagnosed....only in June
>>of this year I showed my husband many personal stories I had found on
>>the net.
>>
>>http://homepages.go.com/~marsbar37/endostory.html
>>
>>Big warm hugss to you and know your not alone!!!
>>
>>Marlene
>>
>>At Mon, 30 Oct 2000, Angela wrote:
>> >
>> >Hello,
>> >I really need to vent right NOW!!! I really just need a really good cry.
>>I
>> >am so upset with my husband right now.
>> >Well I went to my Dr. appt. today! The doctor wants me to continue taking
>> >the bcp's for 2 more months so Dec. 7th and am going to see her and she
>>is
>> >going to decide whether to do another lap or not. Anyway I told my
>>husband
>> >that and he said its hard for him to take time off so we will NEED to
>> >schedule it according to when he can take time off. Also 10 min. ago I
>> >talked to him and he wanted to go running with me tonight and I said I
>>dont
>> >know whether I am running tonight because I am not feeling well today (
>> >nothing new ) and he says he doesnt have time for this. My husband does
>>not
>> >know what I am going through and it really pisses me off. Its not a
>>*&&&*&&
>> >joke I need this DAMN surgery. I am sick of being tossed around by the
>> >doctor, oh take this pill, no take this pill oh if that dont work take
>>this
>> >pill, and it that doesnt work keep a damn log!!!! Shit!!! I dont have
>>time
>> >for this I have a 7 1/2 month old that I like her to be happy 24 hours a
>> >day!!! I can't be sick anymore. And I will not schedule the operation
>>around
>> >my husbands time, my parents will have to take care of my daughter. My
>> >husband doesnt want to believe that I have a disease. He is being very
>> >selfish. Who cares how I am feeling as long as he is happy, thats all
>>that
>> >really matters. angie
>>
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