Re: (((((Kristy)))))
From: Marlene (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Oct 10 10:33:46 2000
Hi Kristy:
It really is so very overwhelming emotionally to loose someone close to
us. I always thought that I could prepare myself for my mom's passing,
but once it happened realized that I couldn't.
My mom had just turned 74. She had undergone several surgeries, the
last one being an abdominal anerism. She was such a strong woman
recovering each time from her procedures and was such a little fighter
(she was only 4' 10 inches).
In January, her heart gave out and she died of a heart attack.
I now wonder too if she didn't have endo, we had an autopsy completed to
be sure of the cause of death and they noted on the report she had a
cyst on her ovary.
It's best right now to just take care of yourself, get the sleep and
rest you need and the old cliche about "time heals" is really true....it
does.
hugssss
Marlene
At Mon, 9 Oct 2000, Kristy wrote:
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>Hi Marlene,
>
>I never fully realized just how overwhelming that loss could be until I went on a major vent the other nite, and it's like I just didn't care about what would happen to me (even though I really do but emotions do some strange things to us). I'm not in a fog thank goodness but I do feel like my world has just been turned upside down right now so maybe it's a good thing that I'm not working just yet.
>
>I'm just not sure whether I'm coming or going when it comes to how I feel physically but I know that is going to take some time to heal too. What did your Mom die of, and how old was she?
>
>As for my dr, she's a very special lady. She's more like a friend and big sister to me than she is a dr. She's so much like a mother hen too Marlene. She's very protective. I have other drs that are good in their own way such as my rheumatologist (or as one of the other girls said, "Rheumie") and the way that he takes care of me but my ob is different somehow and I guess it's b/c of the way that she protects. I'm sure that she does that to everyone but it surely does feel so good.
>
>The only reason that I have this male rheumie still is b/c I've had him long before I started having problems with other male drs and how they treat me. The urologist who saw me 3 years ago and did that vulvar surgery for me (found out later an ob should have done it) that had the chance to find out if something was wrong with my bladder but he didn't want to make sure. The only thing that he did was the catheterization to see if I was emptying ok and that was it. After that he said that I probably just had a kidney infection and that was the end of it. Based on that experience I had decided that I would never go to another urologist ever again as long as I lived.
>
>The urologists in my town are all male and I don't trust them. I will have to ask my dr to help me find someone if the day ever comes that I need one. I hope not especially after a possible discovery that I just made that I'm going to ask my dr about on Fri.
>
>Oh well, one step at a time and I will have to try my hardest to not jump so far ahead of myself with all of the things that I have to do. I may have to take a Xanax tonight to try to help me sleep. At least I slept a lot on Sunday. I will try to get some sleep soon though.
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>I'm glad that your visit with that dr that you saw turned out so good. She sounds so much like mine. What was the specialty of this dr again? I thought Pain Management but you said her work was a little bit different, right?
>
>Kristy S :)
>Jacksonville, FL
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