Re: Howdy Jan! And everybody else.
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Sat Jan 29 12:04:08 2000
Jan,
Dad is definitly terminal. One lung in over 90% affected. They say the
only cure is to remove the lungs and you know, he kinda needs those.
Mom is having a hard time, Dad has pretty much given up and it's making
her crazy. This isn't new to her, she has watched her Son, Mom,
sister-in-law (that she took care of, she was retarted) all die of
cancer so she knows what's she's in for and she's not happy. She plans
on moving here and so my little sister thinks she needs to too. I'm not
happy about it because I moved away to get some distance between me and
the family drama. Oh well, we will see what will happen.
I got my pay check today AAAAHHHHH!!!! they did mess up my disablity,
just like I knew they would. They only paid me 60% and I changed my
benefits to 80% and wait 3 months for the surgery. I will be so ticked
if I waited for nothing. I e-mail copies of all my paper work to my
boss to prove I had 80% coverage and he should take care of it. He's a
good guy.
You take care, I'm sure you've had enough of all the drugs and pain for
one person.
Deniece
At Thu, 27 Jan 2000, JANET wrote:
>
>Neice,
> Yes i go to the pain doc, but i have'nt been there in a month.. I thhink
>it's the lupron, cause of the bleeding and cramping.. When you get the shot,
>u[p until the 3rd month, you bleed a little after, to drain the blood out of
>the uterus, but my bleeding has been anytime my uterus feels like it..lol
>I'm not sure what thats all about.? Anyway... I'm sooo sorry hon, about your
>dad.. I feel really bad.. Are they sure it's terminal? Where has it spread
>to? I'm sure we'll all pray for him to make it to sept.24.. How's mom
>holding up? Gotta be tough.. Is she pretty independent, witrh her own job
>and everything? Or is she retired? She's not going to have to move or
>anything after, is she? I hope not.. You need a big hug, don't ya..? Well
>sweetie, i know you'll be okay, and recover nicely, DO NOT overdue it, or
>i'll be over to kick your bootie...lol... See ya, Jan
>-----Original Message-----
>From: anonymous@obgyn.net
>To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO
>Date: Thursday, January 27, 2000 5:06 PM
>Subject: Re: Howdy Jan! And everybody else.
>
>>Jan,
>>
>>Doing really good, I had to give a talk last night and almost didn't
>>make it through it. I hate it when I have things that I have to do
>>dispite how I feel.
>>
>>I did a little shopping with my sister today. I'm trying to do more and
>>get out more but I want to take it slow enough that I don't make my life
>>miserable. I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling so bad. That's
>>awful!! Didn't you go to a pain doctor and everything? I can't believe
>>they couldn't do more. I guess modern science hasn't come as far as we
>>had thought.
>>
>>I think I must have a really high pain tolerance. My doctors were
>>totally shocked when they opened me up and found out how bad things
>>were. I would have never thought. People are even commenting on how
>>much better I look and that I have color back in my face etc. I guess I
>>should really consider myself very blessed.
>>
>>We heard from my fathers doctor the other day and yes he is terminal.
>>They give him about 6 mos. to a year but I don't think it will be that
>>long, and I think the rest of the family feels the same. We hope he
>>makes it to Sept 24th. it is my parents 50 anniversary. I will be
>>leaving monday and I just still have problems riding across town. My
>>aunt lives half way so we will stop for the night there and then finish
>>the trip later. My friends are afraid I will do to much at home, but I
>>think Mom will keep me under control. I just wish she didn't have two
>>invalids to take care of lol.
>>
>>take care, feel better!!!
>>
>>Deniece
>>
>>At Mon, 24 Jan 2000, JANET wrote:
>>>
>>>Deniece,
>>> Hi hon.. How are you? I'm actually really bad.. I've been stuck in bed
>>>most of the weekend, hardly been able to get out of it.. I've really
>>>basically knocked out alot of the weekend, to just try to get rid of some
>of
>>>the pain.. I don't know what to do anymore.. I've done everything.. I'm at
>>>the end of the road, and there's no reason to keep trying to hold on to my
>>>womanhood anymore, i've had my kids, god was just waiting to give me my
>last
>>>little one, and now it's time to give up part of me.. And maybe i'll be
>able
>>>to live again after i get the hyst.. i hope.. I'm sure my hubby and kids
>>>would love to have mom back.. And i woiuld also love to be normal again,
>if
>>>you can call me normal,lol.. Is your father terminal? I hope not.. Lets
>all
>>>hope to god that he's going to be with you for a very long time yet..
>Thanks
>>>for writing sweetie.. I know you'll start to recover more, and feel alot
>>>better.. Hopefully you can still enjoy some of your vacation, although i
>>>don't know if i'd call it a vacation..lol... Jan
>>>-----Original Message-----
>>>From: anonymous@obgyn.net
>>>To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO
>>>Date: Sunday, January 23, 2000 1:23 AM
>>>Subject: Howdy Jan! And everybody else.
>>>
>>>>Hi Jan,
>>>>
>>>>How's it going? I'm hanging in there. I've gotten out a couple of
>>>>times. My sister took me to Wal-Mart they have wheel chairs so I was
>>>>able to handle it. I think I'm coming around pretty good. I feel great
>>>>laying down, but when I move I know I have problems. Ugh. I have to go
>>>>to California around the 3rd. My dad has Lung Cancer, don't remember if
>>>>I told you or not, but I hope I'm up to the trip.
>>>>
>>>>I think the funniest thing about this whole surgery is that my friends
>>>>were right, I was a lot sicker than I thought. Oh well, I try not to
>>>>let it get me down. I've read all the Harry Potter books now (Took a
>>>>while for my eyes to focus...) Now all I have left are really funny
>>>>books and I'm just not up to that quite yet. What I'd really like is to
>>>>be back to my normal self by next week and then I'd have 3 weeks of my
>>>>disablity to have a good time and get things done. But I know it's just
>>>>a dream that could get me in big trouble.
>>>>
>>>>My sister laughes at me because she says I do more entertaining as an
>>>>invalid than she does all year. I had a bunch of friends over for a
>>>>B-day get together the day I got home. They did all the work and I
>>>>layed on the couch and ate mashed potatoes but it's the idea that makes
>>>>her crazy. It was rather taxing, but it's nice to have friends that you
>>>>can just fall asleep around and let them take care of themselves.
>>>>
>>>>Anyway, I'm doing well. Having some pain today but hanging in there.
>>>>
>>>>Take care, I'll write more often when I can sit longer.
>>>>
>>>>Deniece
>>>>
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