Re: A caution to my good friends...
From: Lila (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed Jan 19 06:47:39 2000
Belle and Everyone,
This is why when forwarding jokes or any other e-mail you should also remove the names of any other person(s) who previously received the e-mail. Privacy is important. ---
Wishing you wings for your hopes and dreams,
Lila in Milwaukee, WI
On Tue, 18 Jan 2000 23:35:01 -Tinker-Belle- wrote:
>
>>>: Undisclosed-Recipient:; <Undisclosed-Recipient:;>
>>>Date: Tuesday, 11 May 1999 11:18
>>>Subject: A caution to my good friends...
>>>
>>>This was forwarded to me by a Very Good Friend Please read it
>carefully...
>>>
>>>The following individual asked not to be identified, but she asked me to
>>>forward this to anyone who does not bcc online... and to spread the word.
>>>Please read this; it is not a joke, not an internet hoax, and not
>something
>>>someone made up to get attention! This person is a member of an on-line
>>>group that I belong to. Please pass this on after you have read it, and
>>>please make sure you cut n paste this info before you forward it. This is
>>a
>>>valuable lesson in using the BCC feature.
>>>
>>> Late one evening, while online, I received an IM from a gentleman who
>>>said he knew me through mutual pals online. We chatted for an hour or so
>>>before deciding to keep in touch, as we had so many things in common. I
>>>eventually, after a week or so of knowing him, trusted him with my name
>>>(first name) and phone number; after all, he knew my friends and I felt he
>>>must have been ok if they all liked and knew him. He knew a lot about
>>them,
>>>he knew a lot about me, he knew a lot about a lot! He seemed like such a
>>>nice person, a pleasant person, and someone whom I felt very comfortable
>>>sharing my time online (and on the phone) with.
>>> Most of the friends I had made on AOL knew me and I knew them, so I
>>>felt quite safe with anyone whom they associated with. We all talked on a
>>>regular basis, though we seldom went into chat rooms. One night, a friend
>>>from our group of friends invited me to a chat room where several of the
>>>friends had gathered and were chatting (it was an open chat in the members
>>>category, romance) and we were all chatting when this gentleman popped
>into
>>>the chat room. He popped in and then left quickly. He then blocked his
>>>buddy list and sent me an IM.
>>> I instantly became curoius as to why he was acting so suspicious.
>>>Then, for the first time since I met and started chatting with him, I
>>>mentioned him to one of the friends who were in the chat room.. one whom
>>>this
>>>gentleman claimed assocation with. She was in total awe, she did not know
>>>who he was! However, she had experienced the same thing as I had. Only
>>>difference was, the guy who sent her an IM claimed to have known her from
>a
>>>former friend online. Things were beginning to look really suspicious.
>The
>>>more she and I chatted, the more suspicious it became.
>>>It also became apparent that this guy knew none of us.
>>> Suddenly, he dissapeared offline for a few days... then one day he
>>>pops back in and sends me an IM saying that we need to talk. He called me
>>>at
>>>my home and I was very upset, so I asked him how he really found me and
>why
>>>he had felt the need to lie in the first place. This is where you all
>need
>>>to pay attention: He told me that he spotted my screenname on a forward
>>>that
>>>one of my friends sent to someone else. My screenname is what attracted
>>>him.
>>>He then used the screenname of others on the list of forwards to acquaint
>>>himself with me and various others from our clique of friends. He also
>>used
>>>the member directory to look up info about others on the list of forwards,
>>>so
>>>not to look suspicious. He said he felt it was the only way he would have
>>>the chance to get to know me, and the main attraction to me was "My
>>>Screenname" because he thought it was "sexy!"
>>> I was upset, needless to say, as I had trusted this man with my
>>>personal info... such as phone number and name. He also knew where I
>lived
>>>(thanks to the phone bill) and I was now his prey! A few days after
>having
>>>last talked to this person and thinking that was the last of him, I
>>received
>>>a phone call at 4:am, it was this man telling me he was in town to see a
>>>friend who lived 20 minutes from my house, and wanted to know if I would
>>>like
>>>to meet him for coffee or breakfast. When I told him it was not such a
>>good
>>>idea, he became irate and hung up on me. I immediately called him back
>>>(caller ID) and explained to him that my husband was back home (trying to
>>>scare him) and to please not be so mad (in fear of him and what he might
>>>do).
>>>His whole demeanor changed and a different person was on the other end of
>>>that phone..not the man whom I had talked to online so many times (and
>>>seemed
>>>so sweet and caring). He was very uneasy and angry towards me.
>>> Telling him that my husband had returned and we were reconciling was
>>>a lie, and I told him this to make him think I was not alone! Imagine the
>>>feeling I felt in the pit of my stomach when he came back with the
>>following
>>>response: "You're a lying bitch, your husband is not there with you...you
>>>are alone!" I hung up on him and immediately called the Broward County
>>>Sheriff's office and told them what had happened. They sent an officer
>>over
>>>to take a report and said that was really all they could do for me at that
>>>time. So, I packed a few belongings into my car, while the deputies
>waited
>>>and drove to my sister's home for the night. I was in shock!
>>> Fifteen or twenty minutes after I arrived at her home, I received a
>>>phone call from this man again! He knew I called the Sheriff and reported
>>>him, he knew where I was and he knew my sister and her husband's names!
>>>People, let me tell you some-thing, this man had been stalking me for
>weeks
>>>and I had no idea.!! I walked, ate, slept and breathed in constant fear
>>>until he was finally arrested for stalking! Not for stalking me! Nope!
>>>For
>>>stalking another lady who lived in Kendall, FL. This is what I was
>>informed
>>>of when I was contacted by Kendall Florida detectives (who was contacted
>by
>>>Broward County) when it was discovered he was facing other various
>charges.
>>>Meanwhile, I went on and filed charges against him in Broward County.
>>> I wanted to share this with you all. And yes, it is all true.
>>>Friends, when you forward things and you leave your friends names out in
>>>plain view like that, you are putting THEM and YOURSELF in what could be
>>>grave danger. I hope I have gotten this message across; as I have not
>even
>>>begun to mention his assault (rape, using deadly force) charges the
>>>detectives from Broward County and Kendall, FL uncovered on him while
>>>investigating his prior history! Yes, he had been charged with raping a
>>>Tifton, Ga lady whom he had met online also, and using the same technique
>>he
>>>used on me and my friend, he stalked her for weeks before finally getting
>>up
>>>the nerve to break in to her home (as she slept) and rape and beat her!
>He
>>>was out on bond and his trial was pending all the while when he was online
>>>and still trying to do the same thing to more women! People, please!!! Be
>>>safe, be careful and BCC!!!! This is NOT a joke and NOT a hoax!!!
>>>**********************************
>>>May be passed to your lists
>>>
>>>
>>
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